“Hey Alex,” Said Emily, “Are you ok? You don’t seem like yourself today.”
“I found out that we are moving,” Alex said sadly.
“You are?” Emily said, “When?”
“In a couple of months, I guess,” Alex said.
“Oh,” Emily said, “Don’t worry. We will still talk every day and we will visit!”
“I like where I live.” Alex said, “I love my house. I’ve always lived right here in Wallsend.”
“Have you seen the new house yet? “Emily asked.
“It won’t be as cool as this one. “Alex said.
“How do you know? “Emily said.
“I don’t know I guess.” Alex said,” but I know I won’t have my friends anymore.”
“You will still have your friends, “Emily laughed, “We will be here and you will be there but we will always be your friends.”
“That’s true,” Alex said.
“I remember when I had to move,” Emily said,” I was afraid that I wouldn’t have any friends here and then I met you. So something great was going to happen, I just didn’t know it at the time. That’s when I learned to always think positively.”
“We sure have had some great times,” Alex said.
“And we still will when we visit!” Emily said.
“I think I will go home and ask my mother to see the pictures of the new house,” Alex said.
Alex’s mother was busy in the kitchen when he came bursting through the door.
“Can I see the pictures of the new house? “Alex asked.
“Sure,” his mother said, “Look at the picture of your bedroom. It is really nice.”
“Yes,” Alex said, “it is so big! It has room for everything! Maybe even a model train set like the one I want for my birthday.”
“Maybe,” his mother laughed,” I know that you are stressed out and a little sad about the move, Alex, but I’m sure that once we get there you will like it.”
“Emily and I had a really good talk.” Alex said, “I’m going to try to be positive about the move. Emily really made me think today. I know now that if I have a positive attitude I can be happy no matter where I am.
Until next time Anxious Minds
“Alex, I need to see you after class.” Mrs Meyers said.
“Ok,” Alex said.
The bell rang loudly and Alex started to get nervous. He was pretty sure why Mrs. Meyers wanted to see him but knowing why didn’t make it easier.
“Alex,” Mrs Meyers said, “You are falling way behind in your class work and you don’t seem to be getting your homework done either. Is everything ok?”
“Yes,” Mrs Meyers,” Alex said, “I guess I just need to try harder.”
“Well, let me know if I can help in any way, Alex.” Mrs Myers said.
“I will,” Alex said, “I better get home and get started.”
Alex ran down the steps of the school. He was rushing so much that he almost didn’t see his friend Matt waiting for him in the driveway of the school.
“Hey, Alex,” Matt said, “Do you want to come play basketball after school today?”
“I can’t,” Alex said, “I have a lot of homework to do.”
“I have so much work to do,” Alex thought, “I don’t know how I will ever get it all done!”
When Alex got home he went straight to his room. As he thought about all the things that he had to do he could feel the panic building.
“Where do I start?” Alex said out loud, “Math? English? I just don’t know! There’s just too much!”
“Alex,” Megan said, “Did you remember that we were going to do homework together today?”
“No,” Alex said as he paced back and forth sorting through papers and notebooks, “I guess I forgot that too.”
“Are you ok, Alex?” Megan said.
“No!” Alex yelled, “I have too much to do and I don’t know where to start! I’m in a real mess Megan. ”
“I think I can help you, Alex.” Megan said, “The first thing that you need to do is calm down. I have a plan. So take a deep breath, Alex. ”
“Ok, Megan,” Alex said sitting down at his desk, “I’m just so worried that I will never catch up.”
“I know,” Megan said, “But let me show you what I do when this happens to me.”
“Ok,” Alex said, “I’m listening.”
“Ok,” Megan began, “We need to make a list. Then we will work down the list until everything is done.”
“Ok. Here are my assignments.” Alex said, pointing to a messy pile of papers and books on the desk.
“Let’s get started.” Megan laughed.
Before long Alex had a list of all the work that he needed to get done on the list. It was neat and organised. As he finished each assignment he checked it off on the list. He didn’t feel so overwhelmed and he could see his progress as he worked through the list.
“This was a great idea, Megan! “Alex said, “I know I can finish everything now. Thank you for helping me.”
“No problem, Alex, “Megan said, “I’m glad that I could help.”
Until next time Anxious Minds
Alex slammed the game controller down on the table.
“I hate losing!” Alex yelled, “It makes me so mad!”
“Be careful with that controller, “Andrew said, “You will break it.”
“I don’t care,” Alex said, “I will never beat this game anyway.”
“You get way too mad when you play video games, Alex. “Andrew said, “Why do you even play them?”
“I play because I like video games. But I hate it when I lose!”
All through lunch Alex sat at the table with an angry look on his face.
When lunch was over Andrew said,
“Do you want to throw the ball with me, Alex?”
“No,” Alex grumbled, “I have to beat that game.”
“You might feel better if you got some fresh air and a little exercise, Alex,” Andrew said.
“Maybe in a little while,” Alex said with a sigh, “After I beat the game. “
A few minutes later Andrew heard the game controller slam down on the table again.
“I can’t beat this stupid game!” Alex yelled, “I’m so mad! I want to throw this game right out the window!”
“Alex!” his mother said, “I have had enough of this! You are grounded from video games for the next week!”
“What?” Alex said, “What will I do without my games?”
“You will have to think of something.” His mother said.
The next morning when Alex got up, he sat at the table trying to figure out what he was going to do without his video games.
“I am so bored without my games,” Alex said.
“A couple of my friends are coming over in a little while to play basketball, Alex,” Andrew said, “Do you want to play?”
“I guess so, “Alex said with a sigh, “there’s nothing else to do.”
A few minutes later Andrew’s friends arrived, and they started the game. Everyone was having a great time. Especially Alex.
“Is anybody ready for lunch?” Alex’s mother yelled from the front door.
“Awwww, “Alex said can’t we play one more game?”
“We can play another game after lunch, “Andrew said.”
“Cool!” said Alex as they headed to the house to eat.
“So,” Andrew said during lunch, “Do you still think video games are more fun than basketball?”
“It’s really weird,” Alex said,” but I forgot how much fun basketball is. I’ve been so worried about beating that game that I didn’t want to do anything else. Playing a game with the guys was more fun even when we lost! “
So for the rest of the week while Alex was banned from video games they played basketball and football with Andrew’s friends.
When the week was over Alex’s mother said.
“You can have your games back, Alex.”
“Maybe I will play one later Mom,” Alex said, “I think the guys are coming over in a little while. Today we are going on a hike!”
Until next time Anxious Minds
“I want to quit the team,” Alex said sadly.
“Quit the team? “Said Coach Brown, “Why?”
“I just don’t like Football anymore,” Alex said.
“I don’t understand Alex, “said Coach Brown, “You have always loved Football.”
“Not anymore. “Said, Alex, as he sadly walked away.
“Did you quit the Football team?” asked James.
“Yes,” said Alex.
“Why, “said James, “You’re the best kid on the team.”
“I just don’t want to play anymore.” Alex said, “I better get back to class.”
“Do you know what’s wrong with Alex?” Cindy asked Jen
“I don’t know.” Jen said, “But he’s been acting weird all week.”
When Alex got home from school, his mother was waiting at the door for him.
“Alex, “she said, “Coach Brown just called me and said that you quit the Football team.”
“Yes.” Said Alex.
“Why would you quit the Football team, Alex?” his mother asked.
“I just don’t want to play anymore.” He said.
As Alex tried to fall asleep that night, he tossed and turned in his bed. Alex had a big problem, and it wasn’t about Football. He knew he needed to ask for help.
“Mom,” he whispered as he walked into her room, “I need to talk to you.”
“What’s the matter Alex?” she said softly.
“I have been having a problem at school. There’s a kid that has been picking on me. He calls me names and makes fun of me, and it makes me feel sad. I have tried to talk to him about it, but he just laughs at me and calls me a wimp. So, I then tried to ignore him, but he just won’t stop! That’s why I quit the Football team. I really need your help.”
“I will call the school tomorrow Alex,” Mom said, “We will figure this out don’t worry it will all be just fine.”
The next day, Mrs Jones came to Alex’s classroom and asked him to come to the principal’s office. When he got to the office, he saw the principal, his parents and in the corner of the room, looking miserable as ever sat Nathan Miller.
“Nathan,” Mrs Webber said,” Is there a problem between you and Alex?”
“No,” Nathan grunted.
“Alex,” Mrs Webber asked,” what is Nathan doing that is bothering you?”
“He’s always making fun of me!” Alex yelled He’s constantly calling me names! I don’t like it I’m sick of it!”
“I was just kidding!” Nathan yelled back.
“Well, it’s not funny!” Alex said,” That’s why I quit Football! I’m feeling so sad and worried cos of you making fun of me all the time! You wouldn’t like it if someone made fun of you all the time either!”
Nathan sat there for a minute or two looking down at the floor.
“No,” said Nathan, “I would hate that. I guess I was having fun picking on you and I wasn’t thinking about how you were feeling about it. But don’t quit the Football team. You are the best kid on the team.”
“Thanks, Nathan,” Alex said looking surprised.
“I will stop making fun of you, “Nathan said.
“Great job working it out boys,” Mrs Webber said.
Alex lay in bed that night thinking it’s good to talk about your problems
Until the next time look after yourself Anxious Minds
“You cheated!” Alex yelled at his brother, Andrew, “you only win because you always cheat!”
“I didn’t cheat, Alex.” Andrew replied, “I won fair and square. You’re a poor sport.”
“I’m never playing with you again!” Alex yelled, “Never!”
“Let’s take a walk,” Lexi said, “I want to show you something.”
As they walked through the woods, Lexi was very quiet.
“What did you want to show me?” Alex asked.
“What do you see right now?” Lexi asked.
“The woods.” He said.
“Yes, but what else?” she said.
“I don’t know what you mean,” Alex answered.
“What are you thinking about right now?”
“I’m thinking about how mad I am at Andrew!”
“While you are thinking about that, you are missing all the beautiful things that I can see at this moment,” Lexi said.
“What do you mean? “Alex said, “What do you see?”
“Did you even notice the baby rabbits hopping in and out of that log as we started our walk?” Lexi asked, “They were so cute!”
“I guess I missed that,” Alex said.
“Did you notice the fluffy white clouds? Or see how beautiful the blue the sky is today?”
“No,” Alex said, “I didn’t notice that either.”
“My point is, while you are staying in an angry moment you are missing things at this moment. Beautiful things that can make you feel happy.”
“I never thought of it that way,” Alex said.
“Let’s look some more.” Lexi said, “Tell me what you see.”
Alex looked around slowly and purposefully.
“Look,” he said pointing to the ground at a big ant hill,
“There must be a million of them. They are all so busy working!”
Alex and Lexi sat watching the ants for quite a while then Lexi said,
“Close your eyes, Alex and tell me what you smell?”
He closed his eyes. “I smell something sweet,” he said, “like a flower.”
“Yes!” she said pointing to a big patch of flowers.
“There are so many beautiful things to see, smell and feel if we just look for them.” She said.
“So Alex,” she said, “when you get angry you can come to this place or imagine all the beauty here, and you can enjoy the beauty at this moment as I do.”
“I will give that a try.” Alex said, “It sounds like a better idea than just staying mad all day.” he said.
Alex and Lexi sat there quietly for a while enjoying watching a green grasshopper as he hopped playfully through the grass. The warm breeze blew gently over them. Alex took a deep breath. Then another.
“I’m ready to go back,” he said, “I’m not angry now.”
Until next time Anxious Minds
Alex learns about Mindfulness
When Alex woke up, the sun was shining brightly through his bedroom window. He knew right away that he had overslept. He quickly jumped out of bed.
“Max will be waiting for me,” he thought, “He’s going to want his morning walk.”
As he hurried down the stairs, he saw Max waiting by the front door. He was excited as usual.
He was hopping and jumping and wagging his tail wildly.
“Hold still you silly boy!” Alex laughed, “I can’t get your leash clipped onto your collar!”
When he finally had, his leash clipped onto his collar they headed out the front door. They had only walked a minute or two when a big truck came down the street. It clattered and clanked loudly as it passed by. Suddenly Max got startled and jumped forward pulling the leash from Alex’s hand.
“Max!” Alex yelled, “Max come back!” But it was too late. Max ran down the street and around the corner, and he was gone.
As Alex stood there with the empty leash in his hand, he began to get very upset. He walked up and down the street looking for Max, but he was nowhere in sight.
“How am I going to tell Mom and Dad that I lost Max!” he thought,
“I will look until I find him.”
Alex said out loud,” then I won’t have to tell them.”
Alex walked up and down the street looking and calling
Max, but he was nowhere to be found. As Alex passed his Grandparents house, he thought,
“I bet Grandpa would help me find Max, but I’m embarrassed to tell him that I let Max get away from me so I’ll just keep looking until I find him.”
So, Alex continued down the street looking for Max. He looked everywhere he could think of.
“I really need help.” thought Alex, “but I just don’t want to ask.”
He walked and walked and walked but he couldn’t find Max. Alex started to think about how Max might be feeling. He imagined how scared he might be.
“I bet he’s looking for me too.” he thought, ” I can’t find him myself.” he thought, “I need to ask for help.”
So, Alex went home and told his parents what had happened.
“I know if we make a few calls,” his father said,” we can get lots of help finding Max!”
His mother got right to work printing flyers to hang up around town. Before long the whole town was getting involved in helping to find Max. Mrs Brown who works at the grocery store was putting the flyers in every grocery bag that she packed. It was amazing to see all the people who wanted to help Alex find Max. With everyone helping it wasn’t long before the phone rang with great news!
“I think I have your little dog Max!” the caller said,” He showed up at my house this morning.
I went to the store to get him a little bite to eat, and while I was there, Mrs. Brown showed me the flyer and told me about you and Max.”
“That is awesome!” Alex said happily, “Someone found Max!” He shouted.
“Let’s go bring him home!” his father said.
When they arrived at the man’s house, Alex could see Max through the window. Max saw Alex
and started jumping and wagging his tail as fast as it could go!
“Max!” Alex exclaimed, ” I’m so happy to see you!”
“He’s a very cute dog!” the man said opening the door, “My name is Bob.”
“Thank you so much for taking care of him!” Alex said.
“You’re welcome.” he said, “I’m glad that I could help.”
On the way home with Max sitting happily on Alex’s lap in the car, Alex said,
“I was afraid to ask for help. I was embarrassed that Max got away from me. I’m so glad that I decided to ask though. So many people helped, it was amazing.”
“Never be embarrassed to ask for help, Alex,” his father said,” We all need help sometimes.”
Until the next time look after yourself Anxious Minds.