“You cheated!” Alex yelled at his brother, Andrew, “you only win because you always cheat!”
“I didn’t cheat, Alex.” Andrew replied, “I won fair and square. You're a poor sport.”
“I’m never playing with you again!” Alex yelled, “Never!”
“Let’s take a walk,” Lexi said, “I want to show you something.”
As they walked through the woods, Lexi was very quiet.
“What did you want to show me?” Alex asked.
“What do you see right now?” Lexi asked.
“The woods.” He said.
“Yes, but what else?” she said.
“I don’t know what you mean,” Alex answered.
“What are you thinking about right now?”
“I’m thinking about how mad I am at Andrew!”
“While you are thinking about that, you are missing all the beautiful things that I can see at this moment,” Lexi said.
“What do you mean? “Alex said, “What do you see?”
“Did you even notice the baby rabbits hopping in and out of that log as we started our walk?” Lexi asked, “They were so cute!”
“I guess I missed that,” Alex said.
“Did you notice the fluffy white clouds? Or see how beautiful the blue the sky is today?”
“No,” Alex said, “I didn’t notice that either.”
“My point is, while you are staying in an angry moment you are missing things at this moment. Beautiful things that can make you feel happy.”
“I never thought of it that way,” Alex said.
“Let’s look some more.” Lexi said, “Tell me what you see.”
Alex looked around slowly and purposefully.
“Look,” he said pointing to the ground at a big ant hill,
“There must be a million of them. They are all so busy working!”
Alex and Lexi sat watching the ants for quite a while then Lexi said,
“Close your eyes, Alex and tell me what you smell?”
He closed his eyes. “I smell something sweet,” he said, “like a flower.”
“Yes!” she said pointing to a big patch of flowers.
“There are so many beautiful things to see, smell and feel if we just look for them.” She said.
“So Alex,” she said, “when you get angry you can come to this place or imagine all the beauty here, and you can enjoy the beauty at this moment as I do.”
“I will give that a try.” Alex said, “It sounds like a better idea than just staying mad all day.” he said.
Alex and Lexi sat there quietly for a while enjoying watching a green grasshopper as he hopped playfully through the grass. The warm breeze blew gently over them. Alex took a deep breath. Then another.
“I’m ready to go back,” he said, “I’m not angry now.”
Until next time Anxious Minds